This article explains why the common advice to "just get over it" misunderstands how our brains work. It explores how emotional experiences create neural pathways that can't simply be overridden through willpower. The post introduces Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) as an alternative approach that teaches acceptance, mindful awareness, and committed action to help people move forward while acknowledging difficult feelings.

Loss isn’t always loud. Sometimes it looks like a job you didn’t love ending, or a version of yourself you’ve quietly outgrown. Grief and relief can live side by side—and some days, neither will show up the way you expect. This post explores the kind of loss that comes with change, especially for those navigating identity, transition, and relationships across cultures.

Over fifteen years ago, I dropped out of grad school—and it felt like the end. I carried that failure quietly, worried how it would look on my CV, unsure what it meant for my future. It took time—and the support of one friend who simply stayed—for me to understand that some endings are really beginnings. This is a reflection on resilience, self-worth, and the things we carry… and eventually, let go.